My friend once told me that, there are some guys, that when you met them, and feels that there is no connection between you and him, you should run the opposite way. I did otherwise. I tried it first. When I felt that there is no connection between the two of us, then I run the opposite way.
What happen was, I met this younger man ( a reason for me to believe not to get involve with immature, younger man) perhaps 2 months ago. We was introduced by my aunt. (Well basically, he's like my aunt's younger brother) I thought that he would be different. So, I give it a try.
What should I do, if a guy, threaten you on un-logic backgrounds, insulted you in a way, threatened to commit physical abuse and then ask for forgiveness and say that I'm the one, that he couldn't live without me and love me unconditionally... and then repeat again insulting and threatening???
CHILDISH AND IMMATURE!!! For not respecting my space, my achievement and my sweats to accomplish to where I am now!!! These kind of guy makes other guys look ridiculous and desperate. I'm not that desperate to quit everything that I've accomplished for and devote my whole life to this person?? Talking about status??? I would not be in the relationship if I'm so concern about status.
To this guy, please change your attitude. You know that no woman could stand your anger and abusive behavior. I'm not your mother that could tell you what to do and what not to do all through your life. I've been moving in and out of love relationship and I've learn so much out of it. I live longer in the world than you do and know things that you might not see. Think far ahead in the future. Your the eldest, show some dignity towards your siblings and your family. If you can't respect me as your once-upon-a-time-girlfriend, respect me as your elder sister, coz for God's sake, I am older than you!!!
Think farther ahead. Don't take things easily to deal things in life. Giving you more chances after all the chances I gave to you, I don't think so. After the insults, the threaten of physical abuse, you know I'm seriously against men hitting woman. Your the last person on earth that I rather be with. And even if your the last man standing, I would rather die than ever wanting to be with you.
Be realistic. Take this as your lesson in life. Improve yourself. Show that you can change. Maybe you deserve someone better than this person that you've insulted!! Good bye!!!
What happen was, I met this younger man ( a reason for me to believe not to get involve with immature, younger man) perhaps 2 months ago. We was introduced by my aunt. (Well basically, he's like my aunt's younger brother) I thought that he would be different. So, I give it a try.
What should I do, if a guy, threaten you on un-logic backgrounds, insulted you in a way, threatened to commit physical abuse and then ask for forgiveness and say that I'm the one, that he couldn't live without me and love me unconditionally... and then repeat again insulting and threatening???
CHILDISH AND IMMATURE!!! For not respecting my space, my achievement and my sweats to accomplish to where I am now!!! These kind of guy makes other guys look ridiculous and desperate. I'm not that desperate to quit everything that I've accomplished for and devote my whole life to this person?? Talking about status??? I would not be in the relationship if I'm so concern about status.
To this guy, please change your attitude. You know that no woman could stand your anger and abusive behavior. I'm not your mother that could tell you what to do and what not to do all through your life. I've been moving in and out of love relationship and I've learn so much out of it. I live longer in the world than you do and know things that you might not see. Think far ahead in the future. Your the eldest, show some dignity towards your siblings and your family. If you can't respect me as your once-upon-a-time-girlfriend, respect me as your elder sister, coz for God's sake, I am older than you!!!
Think farther ahead. Don't take things easily to deal things in life. Giving you more chances after all the chances I gave to you, I don't think so. After the insults, the threaten of physical abuse, you know I'm seriously against men hitting woman. Your the last person on earth that I rather be with. And even if your the last man standing, I would rather die than ever wanting to be with you.
Be realistic. Take this as your lesson in life. Improve yourself. Show that you can change. Maybe you deserve someone better than this person that you've insulted!! Good bye!!!
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Wow! What a heading?? Should have read .... When a boy don't listen to what a woman says! U sound damned frustrated here! Its all about LOVE, LOVe, LOve and Love again ! But thats not LOVE ! Its infatuation ..... ! Thats why it doesn't work out well and both of you doesn't click at all !
It takes time to really love somebody and sometimes you need sacrifices too. There is indeed love at first sight but really rare. Hard to come by these days but do exist in conservative society.
Physical abuse ! Wow ! Just couldn't believed what I have read. Couldn't be true ! Is your ex boyfriend a sadist ??? Well well well, you have made a right decision to keep your distance away from him my dear devilzgals. A man who exert physical abuse on her female partner is simply a SICK person ! I'm a man too and I support your views on this issue.
Respect, Trust & Transparency are the basic ingredients for a sound relationship. So don't feel down and frustrated Nomie. Be sincere enough to pardon him because for every one failure that you suffered, many more blessings will come your way.
Hi xbaee...
i know it takes time to love somebody and need sacrifices.. I sacrifices, by putting aside my status, just to be with him. But then, this issues comes up as the fight continues... When to the part that you explain in PLAIN ENGLISH, he just couldn't understand a single word I'm saying. And sometimes, its frustrating me.
He nearly laid his hand on me. Which I didn't see it coming, and he remembered that I've warned him that I would leave him immediately if he ever lays his hand on me.
He's now couldn't accept the fact that we've broke off. I don't know what is that he's so damn stubborn to let me go.
I do forgive him, but to accept him back, not in a million years of speed.
Between, do I know you? u seems to know me....
Hi,
Yeap, without u telling me I know that u have done yr part and that is why I said that u hv made the right decision to break off with this man. There is no point to hang on if he blatantly refused to understand u and don't ever wait till his aggression on you left a painful scar for the rest of your life.
Inferior complex ??? Could this be the reason that makes him so damn stubborn to let you go ?? Well, the way I see it, its simply male chauvinist. He badly needs a chastening lecture !
U r a lady of honour for having the capacity to give & forgive. By doing so u r able to open up yr horizon to seek greater height. Whatever it is, the decision to accept him back or not is entirely yours to consider.
To help u move forward in life, just would like to share the 90:10 principles by Stephen Covey with you. Its all about making the right choice/decision when face with a situation.
Good luck ..........
Oh ya, many thanks for changing the heading and yes I think u know me ! We met before ...............
hi xbaee, its good to know that someone does read my blog... hahahaha... we met before? where? could you please be specific? don't be shy, i'm open to any criticism and opinion. Its good to get some good advice from other people... basically, every asked me to leave, which I am.. I did it already. I feel much comfort without him bothering my life anymore... But still with the attitude of not respecting what I want and what he has promised. Some boy... they don't see things like we realistic people sees. I hope one day, God will open up his mind to see the truth and the fact of life. An introduction of yourself would be great... I really do appreciate your advice.. Indeed it helps me a lot in some way... TQ so very much!!!
Hi, it has been quite a while since we last interact. Sorry, I was bz and furthermore my laptop kaput so I took a short break from the cyber world !
I noticed that you had also stopped writing in your blog. Why ???
I was only pulling your leg when I said that we have met before ! Come on, don't stop writing just because I'm a stranger to you. Bloggers normally don't do that, do they ???
Nice to be back and hope to see new material from you.
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