What the meaning of marriage? It would be a meaningful definition for those who really really ready for marriage, and appreciate marriage life. But what about those who were force into marriage, accidents, get married and then realize that they made a big mistake by getting married.. What would it make a marriage definition from these kind of people???
For instance, this couple XY, were in love for many many years. Everyone sees them as a perfect couple. Both are handsome and beautiful and both also very very rich!! They got married and a very grand and expensive ceremony.. but the marriage last only for 6 month...
Then this other couple, couple ZA. They broke up after 3 years of relationship. But the got back together and get married. They have 1 kid. The baby is only 6 month old when they got divorced and now regret of being divorce.
Then there is this another couple. Married for nearly 14 years with 3 kids aged 14, 8 and 5. They got divorce because the wife keep on accusing the husband having an affair with another woman, which is not! And when in the first place, the 'wife' is actually who force both of them into marriage when the husband is not ready. Why people do this? Why want to commit when you know that you're not ready? Why want to jeopardize the sacred of marriage by getting a divorce. In Islam, divorce is an act that is 'halal' but Allah really hates. Even as ancient Catholic, when you divorce, you eventually cannot be married to another person because of the vow that they made, 'Till death do us part!" Why be married to other when the other person is still up and alive. I don't understand.
And when you parents says this and that about your partner, saying that he's not good enough for you. When is it that that person would be good enough for them? No body perfect in this world. When you found your soulmate and you are truly in a way that never be apart from him, definitely you determine to be with him. Its just that it would take some times for both of you to understand each other well. When the right time comes, everything would go as in everyone wants it to be.
Sometimes, I'm sick being someelse that I'm not. Sick of pretending and hurting myself. Now that I'm happy with what I have, i want to enjoy every single little bits I have. Coz we don't know, when our time will come.
And I'm babbling again on 1st Ramadhan... whats with me... ish...
Anyway, SELAMAT BERPUASA AND SELAMA MENUNAIKAN SOLAT TARAWIKH!!!
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Well marriage is nothing other than a legal relationship between a man and a woman in the eyes of both civil & religious point of view. How two persons end up in a marriage is of course unique and only they know the secret recipe that lead them to seal it with the marriage vow.
The 3 examples that you have shared about marriages that ended up in a divorce, the way I see it are basically a result of misunderstanding. Misunderstanding is often the root cause of a conflict in a marriage. There is an old chinese saying (also in P Ramlee's song) that even the teeth would sometime bite the tongue. This serve to remind us that even in the world of loving madness in any relationship including marriage, there will be conflict and call for a speedy reconciliation.
There is of course nothing wrong for a fight in a marriage as long as it is fought fairly. If indeed an argument is unavoidable, focus on the source of the conflict and never never attack the dignity of your partner.
We often heard of loving and exciting couple breaking up as their marriage collapsed after going through a romantic doldrums causing a slow and painful death to their relationship. And one would say, its fated ! Is it really so ??? Or is it that they have failed to resolve a misunderstanding that lead them to a deadly conflict and ended up in a divorce ? Give it a thought.
Remember that marital relationships also conform to the principles of disintegration. A marriage needs to be protected and upgraded from time to time ......
Xbaee
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